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Welcome

Simply by considering the possibility of therapy, you have taken the first, and often the most difficult step in finding meaningful and lasting solutions to your concerns.

At EnGedi Life Care, our goal is to help you address the challenges you are facing. We offer personalized care that uses effective and proven techniques without fear of judgment or rejection.

We look forward to hearing from you.

- Pamela Bermender, M.A., LMFT-S, NCC

What You Can Expect

  • Compassion, respect, confidentiality, understanding
  • Effective and proven techniques along with practical guidance
  • An approach that is tailored to your specific situation
  • Perspectives that clarify persistent patterns and negative feelings
  • Real and holistic strategies for enacting positive change

Couple Therapy

  • Affair-Infidelity
  • Recurring Conflict
  • Communication Issues
  • Loss of Closeness
  • Lack of Intimacy
  • Mistrust, Jealousy, Anger
  • Feeling of Hopelessness
  • Parenting Issues

Individual Therapy

  • Relationship Issues
  • Trauma, Anxiety, Stress
  • Depression, Grief
  • Anger Issues
  • Compulsive Behaviors
  • Life Transitions
  • Abuse, Self-Esteem
  • Single Parenting

Family Therapy

  • Communication Issues
  • Conflict Resolution
  • Family Stress, Instability
  • Anger Management
  • Divorce, Separation, Loss
  • Blended or Remarriage
  • Step Parenting, Adoption
  • Parenting Challenges

Therapy Services

  • Couple

    • Affair-Infidelity
    • Recurring Conflict
    • Communication Issues
    • Loss of Closeness
    • Lack of Intimacy
    • Mistrust, Jealousy, Anger
    • Feeling of Hopelessness
    • Parenting Issues

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    Couple Therapy

    We are committed to helping you enact positive changes in your relationship, or to help you to move on if you decide the relationship cannot be healed.

    The majority of couples that come to therapy are in a crisis that is affecting or threatening their relationship, as well as their own emotional well-being. Usually the crisis has a relatively long history of building stress, anger, resentment, and hopelessness between the partners.

    Couple therapy has helped our clients to recognize and resolve conflicts, communicate more effectively, negotiate differences, experience healing, and improve their relationship. As well, when issues truly are irreconcilable couple therapy has helped in separating from the relationship and working through the emotions and stages that accompany its ending.

    Regardless of the issues or struggles you are facing, as a couple you can experience a renewed future. Through couple therapy, you can learn to draw on your existing strengths as well as gain new skills to address the issues facing your relationship and make well-thought-out decisions about your future together.

  • Individual

    • Relationship Issues
    • Trauma, Anxiety, Stress
    • Depression, Grief
    • Anger Issues
    • Compulsive Behaviors
    • Life Transitions
    • Abuse, Self-Esteem
    • Single Parenting

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    Individual Therapy

    We all experience problems, issues, and disappointments in daily living. Sometimes these pass with time, or with the help of family or friends.

    However when problems or issues begin to affect the quality of life, act as obstacles to realizing personal potential, or seem overwhelming and unsolvable, therapy can help you to regain stability in your life.

    Working collaboratively, your therapist can guide you through the challenges you are facing. Therapy can help you develop communication and conflict resolution skills, learn relaxation techniques, as well as understand and use your strengths, so that you can enjoy your life more fully.

    Emotional healing and positive change is possible; you can become empowered to have the life you really want to experience.

  • Family

    • Communication Issues
    • Conflict Resolution
    • Family Stress, Instability
    • Anger Management
    • Divorce, Separation, Loss
    • Blended or Remarriage
    • Step Parenting, Adoption
    • Parenting Challenges

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    Family Therapy

    In family therapy, the family is viewed as an interconnected system, rather than just the sum of the individual members.

    This means that relationship and individual problems are seen as most often resulting from family dynamics, not from any one family member. Instead of placing blame on one person, families work together to identify and mobilize their strengths to achieve meaningful change in their relationships with one another.

    This approach to family therapy has helped our clients to learn better ways to interact with one another and resolve conflicts. As well, therapy has helped them in fostering better communication and resolving problems and issues effectively and positively.

    Through therapy your family can also learn to reconnect with each other, share openly, and rely on each other for support.

  • Trauma, Anxiety

    When trauma is not easily processed and is left unresolved, the emotional wounds can become more devastating than the original event.

    In trauma therapy, clients learn how to reduce or manage the overwhelming emotions associated with a trauma, in order to move on to the healing process.

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    Trauma Therapy

    Most people are affected at sometime in their life by trauma - an event that causes them to experience intense fear for their physical or emotional well-being or survival. This event may come in the form of a car accident, death of a loved one, natural disaster, physical assault, war, or other physical or emotional events whether recurring or singular in experience.

    While some people recover quite quickly from such traumatic events, often with the help of a support structure (e.g. family, friends, faith, etc.), others take longer in the recovery process. However, some people experience events that are so overwhelming to the emotions, they prevent the individual from fully processing the experience.

    People who have not been able to successfully process a traumatic event, may experience a variety of physical and emotional symptoms. These symptoms can include sleeplessness, nightmares, emotional numbness, startle responses, panic, anger, and loss of energy to name but a few. In some instances, certain stimuli (e.g. sights, sounds, smells) may even trigger memories of the traumatic event, resulting in a feeling of the stress, fear, or grief that accompanied the original experience.

    Both military and civilian clients have been helped to address and successfully process traumatic events. With such issues, often (not always) EMDR therapy is combined with other strategies that are tailored to the needs of each person. Through this tailored therapy, clients learn how to reduce or manage their overwhelming emotions, in order to move on to the healing process.

  • Affair, Infidelity

    Although profoundly painful, the destructive affects of infidelity on a committed relationship can be overcome.

    With focused work through affair recovery therapy, relationships can not only survive the emotional trauma, they can become healthier as well.

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    Affair & Infidelity

    Infidelity, whether a physical or emotional affair, is one of the most damaging experiences for a love relationship.

    The injured partner typically suffers a range of feelings that may include betrayal, anger, anxiety, depression, and confusion. As well, the participating partner typically experiences different feelings that may include guilt and shame. Both sets of feelings can be highly emotional, and events can easily “trigger” these feelings, further complicating matters within the relationship.

    While the experience of infidelity is painful, there can still be hope and healing for the relationship. Whether a relationship can recover depends on several factors, not the least of which is a rebuilding of trust between the couple. In order for healing and the rebuilding of trust to occur, the couple must be committed to the relationship and willing to address not only the infidelity, but also the underlying and unresolved issues that contributed to vulnerabilities in the relationship.

    Our clients have been helped to deal with the damage of infidelity, and through therapy they have experienced healing, restoration, and forgiveness. In many cases clients have been able to revitalize their relationship and become stronger as a result. Sometimes clients have decided to leave the relationship but are more aware and prepared for the future through the therapy process.

    Moving past an affair is not an easy task and it does take time. There must be commitment from both partners to the relationship and the therapy process. When a couple has that commitment, the relationship has hope for a better future.

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New Clients

  • Appointments

    Clients are accepted by appointment only and all appointment days/times are reserved on a first-request basis.

    • Appointments are scheduled as follows:
    • MON, TUE, THU, FRI 11:00AM - 6:30PM
    • SAT 11:00AM - 3:30PM
    • WED, SUN Closed
  • Schedule First Appointment

    • Request us to send you a New Client Form for either Individual, Couple or Family therapy.
    • We will send a link for you (and partner for couple therapy) to complete a form online.
    • We will contact you to schedule your first appointment after receiving the completed form(s).
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  • Fees, Insurance

    • Fees: $100 session hour
    • Payment: Cash, Check, Credit/Debit Card, HSA/FSA Card
    • Insurance: BCBS-PPO, TRICARE only
    • Receipt for out-of-network filing
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New Clients

  • Appointments

    Clients are accepted by appointment only and all appointment days/times are reserved on a first-request basis.

    • Appointments are scheduled as follows:
    • MON, TUE, THU, FRI 11:00AM - 6:30PM
    • SAT 11:00AM - 3:30PM
    • WED, SUN Closed
  • Schedule First Appointment

    • Request us to send you a New Client Form for either Individual, Couple or Family therapy.
    • We will send a link for you (and partner for couple therapy) to complete a form online.
    • We will contact you to schedule your first appointment after receiving the completed form(s).
    • Click Here To Contact Us
  • Fees, Insurance

    • Fees: $100 session hour
    • Payment: Cash, Check, Credit/Debit Card, HSA/FSA Card
    • Insurance: BCBS-PPO, TRICARE only
    • Receipt for out-of-network filing
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  • Pamela Bermender, M.A., LMFT-S, NCC

    Pamela is licensed by the Texas State Board of Examiners of Marriage and Family Therapists and is an Approved Supervisor (#201504).

    Pamela is also an American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) Clinical Fellow and Approved Supervisor, a Certified EMDR Therapist, and a National Certified Counselor.

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    Pamela Bermender, M.A., LMFT-S, NCC

    Pamela earned a Master of Arts in Marriage & Family Therapy from the University of Mary Hardin-Baylor (UMHB) in Belton, Texas.

    After graduation, Pamela provided therapy and counseling services at the Family Life Chaplain Training & Resource Center (FLCTC) at Fort Hood in Killeen, Texas for three years, while also starting a practice in the Austin-Cedar Park-Leander area.

    Pamela has continued to pursue education and training opportunities; she is an approved Texas State Board and AAMFT Supervisor; has earned certification as a National Certified Counselor, and is a Certified Therapist in EMDR.

    As a a native Texan, Pamela has lived her entire life in this beautiful state. Pamela is married and has a daughter. Prior to becoming a therapist, Pamela worked in the technology industry for many years, where she was involved in a variety of projects in technical, supervisory, and leadership roles.

    The breadth of Pamela's professional work and experience has enriched her perspectives about life, and provides valuable insights in helping clients to deal with various struggles and issues in their own lives.


    Professional Associations

    Specialized Training

  • Appointments

    • M,T,Th,F: 11:00AM-6:30PM
    • Sat: 11:00AM-3:30PM

    Fees

    • $100 session-hour

    Insurance

    • BCBS-PPO, TRICARE
    • Receipt for out-of-network filing
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  • Pamela Bermender, M.A., LMFT-S, NCC

    Pamela is licensed by the Texas State Board of Examiners of Marriage and Family Therapists and is an Approved Supervisor (#201504).

    Pamela is also an American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) Clinical Fellow and Approved Supervisor, a Certified EMDR Therapist, and a National Certified Counselor.

  • Appointments

    • M,T,Th,F: 11:00AM-6:30PM
    • Sat: 11:00AM-3:30PM

    Fees

    • $100 session-hour

    Insurance

    • BCBS-PPO, TRICARE
    • Receipt for out-of-network filing
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Therapy FAQ

  • What is therapy?

    Therapy is the process of solving emotional, social, relational, career, and/or spiritual problems by talking with a professionally trained person in order to achieve a more fulfilling life. Who you are as a person will help to determine the ways in which you go about changing your life.

    The process of change begins by first clearly defining the concerns you (as an individual, couple, or family) are experiencing, and then discussing your thoughts and feelings related to these concerns. This helps the therapist to work with you to identify what is most significant about the concerns you are experiencing. After your concerns are understood, you and your therapist work together in developing new skills and healthy attitudes about yourself, others, and situations in your life.

    In some instances, initially talking about your concerns may make you feel worse. However, if you continue to work on your concerns in concert with our sessions, they will normally improve over time.

  • How can therapy help me?

    Working with a therapist can help provide insight, support, and new strategies for all types of life challenges. A skilled therapist can help you to address a variety of issues, situations, and problems that can empower you to…

    • Make informed decisions regarding career, relationships, and other important choices
    • Overcome issues of infidelity, trauma, or anger
    • Resolve feelings of depression, worry, or anxiety
    • Establish closer, intimate, and more fulfilling personal relationships
    • Manage stressful situations or life transitions
    • Recover from divorce, a death, or other relationship loss
    • Resolve long standing emotional roadblocks
    • Experience more enjoyment and a more abundant life

    Therapy is most effective when you are interested in getting the most out of your life by taking responsibility, creating greater self-awareness, and working towards meaningful change in your life.

  • Is therapy and counseling the same thing?

    The terms therapy and counseling are often used interchangeably, however there are some differences between the two ideas.

    Counseling is about giving advice or suggestions on dealing with a particular situation, issue, or symptom. In practice, counseling is generally brief and usually deals with changing behavior for the specific issue or problem a client is presenting.

    Therapy, sometimes termed Psychotherapy, may include aspects of counseling but is more focused on addressing the root causes of specific issues or emotional problems. In other words, therapy helps to identify the thought processes and unconsciously held patterns and beliefs that are the underlying contributors or causes to specific issues. By addressing these underlying causes, therapy is more likely to bring lasting change or relief.

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Couple Therapy FAQ

  • What is couple therapy?

    The purpose of couple therapy is to help you better understand yourself and your partner, and empower you as a couple to make changes within your relationship.

    Couple therapy is never just about one person (‘I’, ‘me’, ‘him’, ‘her’); couple therapy is about a relationship (‘we,’ ‘us,’ ‘our’). Instead of fixing blame on one person, couple therapy provides a balanced approach that enables each partner to be heard, validated, and understood.

    Working together as partners, couple therapy will help you bring change to the negative relational patterns and dynamics that trap most couples in conflict cycles and ineffective communication. If left unchanged, these negative relational patterns will damage or destroy relationships.

    While couple therapy often focuses on problem areas, it also promotes the strengths you already possess, in order to help you derive more enjoyment out of your relationship.

  • Can a relationship survive infidelity?

    Yes, couple relationships can and do recover from the devastation of infidelity.

    Whether a relationship can recover depends on several factors, not the least of which is the ability to rebuild trust between the couple.

    In order for a rebuilding of trust and healing to occur, you must be willing to address not only the infidelity, but also the underlying and unresolved issues that contributed to vulnerabilities in your relationship.

    Moving past an affair is not an easy task, but if you are willing to work through the infidelity and underlying issues, the relationship has promise for a better future.

  • What if one of us is unsure about staying together?

    Sometimes a couple comes to therapy with different ideas about the future status of their relationship. One partner may be reluctant to try to rebuild or heal the relationship, while the other is more committed.

    If you (or your partner) are hesitant about committing to the relationship, then be open and honest about your reluctance. While your therapist can usually tell after one or two sessions when one partner is reluctant or ‘checked-out’, openness from both partners helps facilitate a strategy for the therapy that follows.

    When there is a mixed agenda, your therapist will work with each of you, separately and together, with the goal of achieving greater understanding about whether to try to restore the relationship or not.

    Unlike traditional couple therapy, this ‘discernment’ or ‘decision-making’ therapy involves only two-four sessions that are aimed at helping struggling couples decide whether to improve the relationship or let it go.

    The short discernment therapy helps both of you to understand your contributions to the current relationship state and to gain additional clarity and confidence about decisions related to your relationship.

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  • EnGedi Life Care, PLLC
  • 1464 E Whitestone Blvd
  • Ste 202
  • Cedar Park, TX 78613

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